A few words about the heart this week,
The statistics for Valentine’s Day last year showed the average amount of money a man spent on a woman was $133.91. I don’t know where they come up with these stats, but someone is neglecting to pay their electric bill.
Red and hearts are everywhere!
Some shoppers feel guilty if they don’t spend enough, or get the perfect gift, and others hate the day all together. They only remember Valentine’s Day as a heart breaker day.
Can the heart survive hearing they are loved just one day a year?
One of the rules of writing is show not tell.
The telling is February 14h…the showing is all year long…year after year.
Relationships can’t survive for only February 14th, but need to be built on continued love and communication. Just as God renews our hearts, so we must renew our relationship with God, and then, other human beings.
We are told in John 13:34-35
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
Imagine how our relationship would be if God spoke to us in a literal way? We still would not see him, but what if he spoke out loud to us every time we called? How differently we would see our relationship!
Psalm 28:7 says:
“The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me. My heart leaps for joy, and with my song I praise him.”
Most of us will admit we don’t work hard enough on communication. Often we don’t give our best to our spouses, children, and friends. I continually find myself wanting my space, wanting my own plans, wanting my own way.
“The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?”
This verse bothers me because even though I want to do what is right, I fail. We all fail…it’s a constant struggle, but we can do all things through Christ.
Many of my family and friends know the Umpire was once a minister. Does that mean we have our marriage all together? That our marriage is perfect…no way!
I can’t count how many times I was angry and misunderstood him, or the times he wouldn’t communicate…and we stopped talking. (Or he didn’t communicate so I misunderstood him!)
Marriage has plenty of dry spells. We often call them boring times, but in reality they are very normal, and those times take up a majority of our lives. Often we just float along in oblivion…and that’s the problem. Those times fortification is important: the building up of relationships.
Imagine if my life and yours were constantly a whirlwind of excitement. We would die of exhaustion.
They say the honeymoon is over when the first fight begins. But then children come, and grow. They change married life forever. We run our lives ragged… for our children and neglect our spouse. We can neglect our love relationship with our spouse because our work is so compelling that we are sucked in.
Marriage is big part of our Christ walk. It should always be changing and renewing or it will become stale like old bread. Rough waters are even harder on marriage. There is so much going on with children, finances and health, that before you know it, you are ready to retire and your marriage feels like an old shoe.
Did you are get too comfortable? Maybe you let everything stay the same. You may wonder why you haven’t replaced your spouse when in reality your focus should be your own renewal…to be at a better place than the newlyweds. After all, you have years of experience.
After our recent years of economic breakdown, Americans are working harder than ever to pay high taxes and cost of food. The demands on our wallet are much greater than for our grandparents. Our needs many times are really our wants. We are less content…I wonder if we are any happier with all the stuff…
So what is real love? How do we show real love? How can we persist in loving others?
I want to be honest and say that I didn’t want to talk about hearts, and valentines this week. I’m having my own long dry spell in which I have many questions. I don’t like being here, I don’t like where I’m at, and so I wonder if anything I might say to you will be worth reading. Even though I struggle, I know some truths about God.
Are we so special an individual that our needs come first? When did we last sacrifice for another heart?
Work at it. Our eyes must be wide open.
Christ—for the joy, died for our sins! That’s real love.
“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.”